Dads & Dads-to-Be

Men Tell All: 8 Changes To Marriage Every New Dad Should Expect

Some of our favorite new dads got really honest about what's changed in their marriages since their babies were born. In short? A whole lot.

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Some of our favorite new dads got really honest about what's changed in their marriages since their babies were born. In short? A whole lot.

While we were expecting tons of dads to say, "Sex? What's that?" and plenty did (that's a direct quote from one of them), we were totally surprised by some of the candid confessions we got! From the good — pure joy — to the bad — lack of sleep — these dads aren't holding back when it comes to talking about what's changed in their lives since baby came along.

1. It's a more grown-up relationship.

"The reality of family finally hit us. Our second baby made us mature and really begin thinking of the other person and how to help them." — johnnyjay44

"We are both more confident — as people, friends, lovers, parents." — dad2b

2. Their wives are more absent — and they miss them.

"My wife? Have you seen her? Haha!" — lovemylittleguys

3. Quality time together is nonexistent.

"We only talk about our daughter and our sleeping arrangements...our time together has lessened." — yanksfan2

4. Some roles have been reversed.

"Now I'm the one who's always doing dishes, vacuuming or cooking." — prepping4baby

5. Sex isn't as frequent — but it can still be as good as, and maybe even better than, before.

"We're having less sex!" — jamesdad

"We share a lot more responsibility and I would definitely say more intimacy, as we appreciate our time alone a lot more." — 88giants80

6. They feel like they're finally getting this marriage thing right.

"It has made my wife and I grow stronger and forced us to develop teamwork." — prouDad45

"One thing I noticed on the positive is that we tend to argue about the little things a lot less. Who has time/energy to argue?" — chitowndad

"We've gotten better at taking turns...sleeping, eating, cleaning, holding the baby — a lot of emphasis on being equitable." — puertoricanpop

7. They believe this is the ultimate test.

"Everything changes. Sex life, conversations, time spent together. Kids change your routine, and it's when your relationship is truly tested." — luckyguydad

8. They've fallen in love with their partners all over again.

"I didn't think it was possible, but I fall more in love with my wife with every baby that we have together." — babyontheway77

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Plus, more from The Bump:

Secret Thoughts of New Dads

Top 10 Things Every New Dad Should Know

8 Shocking Ways Marriage Changes After Baby

By Kylie McConville