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5 Things All Dads Wish Moms Knew

We got new dads to dish on what they wish their partners knew. So, listen up!

We got new dads to dish on what they wish their partners knew. So, listen up!

Let's be honest: a new baby, a whole new lifestyle and a postpartum mama aren't exactly the easiest things for most new daddies to get used to. Though they usually try to be helpful, it's still a big adjustment. So, after hearing what moms wish their partners knew, we decided to pull a 180 and ask dads to share what they wish the women in their lives knew. Some of the answers may shock you.

#1. They miss you — and your attention.

"After baby was born, I did my best to help with everything my wife needed. And while I don't mind doing it, I need a hug or a 'good job' every once in a while — some kind of appreciation for what I do!" — Jake B.

"I really wanted to take a trip with my wife, just the two of us. Even if we went away for a day together or were able to get a family member to stay with the kids for an overnight trip — or even to a movie! — I wanted that time together. So much of our energy went into the kids that for a while we forgot about each other." — George R.

"I felt neglected after baby arrived. I know it's only natural, but it was still hard to adjust." — coachjoe22

#2. They really do think you're the best mom in the world.

"Right after the birth of our second baby, I was amazed by everything my wife could do. Even though I didn't understand everything she was going through — and didn't know how to tell her that — I was still amazed by her." — Rich W.

"I seriously couldn't get over the fact that my wife gave birth to our baby. What's cooler than that?!" — Heath K.

"When I'm tired and losing patience with the kids, I think of how much harder it is for my wife because she's with them every day. I think, if she can do it, so can I." — Bill B.

#3. They need a break, too.

"When we found out we were having a second child, I told my wife I needed a man cave, so that I can go there every once in a while for a quality quiet moment." — Ron M.

"Sometimes, I need a break from the 'baby did this today' conversation. I need my wife to listen about my day at work even when the baby is whining. Sometimes, I don't want to be pummeled with baby problems from the minute I walk in the door. I want to tell you about my day, too, because that's important to me." — Simon T.

"Dads do a lot of things they don't want to do, but we do it anyway. Sometimes, we need a day off." — Cole O.

#4: Everything doesn't have to be perfect.

"I tell my wife that we don't need to give the baby a bath every night because sometimes, I just want to hang out together and relax. A bath can wait, right?" — Harry G.

"Not going to lie, I pretend that I know what I'm doing with baby. Fake it till you make it, right? Hey, at least I'm trying!" — Joe V.

#5. They think you're sexy. Maybe even more than they did before baby.  

"I think my wife is sexy even though she tries to hide her postbaby body." — Charles D.

"It's such a turn-on to see my wife taking care of the kids, taking care of me and still managing to take care of her own career. I love it!" — Anthony L.

"Our relationship is better than ever before, now that baby's arrived. I'm so much more in love with my wife and I didn't even think that was possible." — Seth R.

*Some names have been changed.

The Bump and Allstate teamed up to present Take It From Me , a sponsored series featuring life lessons that new moms and dads learned from past generations, plus valuable advice to help you prepare for the future. To find a local Allstate agent who can advise you as you make big life changes, visit Allstate.com.

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By Kylie McConville