Baby Showers

Q&A: When To Send Baby Shower Invitations?

My friend is hosting a baby shower for me. When should she send out the invites?

Think about it this way: The typical baby shower should take place around your sixth or seventh month, and shower invitations should be sent out about four weeks before that. So you’re looking at about your five- or six-month mark. Earlier than that, guests might forget. And any later, they’re more likely to have already made plans.

The reason the best time for the shower is somewhere between the end of the second trimester and the beginning of the third trimester is that this is the time when you’re likely to be feeling good and looking plenty pregnant, with a nice-size bump. But you won’t have reached the point where you’re super uncomfortable or risk going into labor before the event. Another added bonus? You’ll have time to write your thank-you notes before your baby is born — and time is really at a premium.

Remember that by the time you send out the invites, you should already be registered for gifts, since guests will probably immediately start browsing your gift list. Luckily, you’ll know the gender of your baby (if you want to!) around week 20, so you’ll be able to already have a gender-specific registry list by then.

As far as what type of invitations your host should send, we recommend going old-school with mailed ones. Evites are great, but they’re not always reliable — they can easily go to spam, and some guests might not check their email religiously. So start compiling a list of your VIPs’ addresses to give to your friend — she'll probably ask you for them soon.

—Mindy Lockard, etiquette consultant, The Gracious Girl

Plus more from The Bump:

Planning a Baby Shower

25+ Baby Shower Game Ideas

What to Buy for Baby

By The Bump Editors