The AAP Has 14 Ideas for Showing Your Child Love Today

The diaper changes and 3 a.m. feedings are proof in the early days: It’s not a question that you love your child. But if you want to be absolutely sure you’re showing it as they get older, the American Academy of Pediatrics has some ideas for you. In honor of Valentine’s Day, the AAP is sharing 14 ways parents can show love to their children. And yes, it involves some tough love.

1. Be positive and encouraging when you talk to kids. Try to avoid sarcasm, even when you’re making a joke; children don’t understand it, and you may inadvertently be encouraging a negative way of communicating.
2. The words you choose both at home and in public matter. Kids take notice of your interactions with others, so make sure “Please,” “Thank you,” and “I’m sorry” are part of your vocabulary.
3. When your kids are ready to talk, be available—even if it’s not the best time for you. It’s important to be both prompt and loving in response to their emotional and physical needs.
4. Learn how to approach your child when they’re in a bad mood. Do they need a hug? A nod of acknowledgement? Consider waiting until they’re feeling better to have a talk.
5. Always use non-violent discipline for bad behavior. And make sure to reward good behavior too.
6. Spend one-on-one time doing something fun with your child.
7. Encourage family fun with a weekly game night, and make sure to rotate who’s in charge.
8. On the fence about buying a pet? Go for it; they encourage an emotional connection, and more often than not, physical activity.
9. Cook together! Kids are more willing to eat healthy foods when they helped prepare them.
10. Minimize screen time and read to baby from at least 6 months onwards. It’s up to you to encourage good habits and skills that can set kids up for success.
11. Your child’s well-being depends on your vigilance. Stay up to date on preventive health care visits, do your best to help kids get adequate amounts of sleep, teach them how to maintain a healthy diet and encourage exercise. Oh, and model these behaviors yourself!
12. Encourage positive friendships for your kids, whether this means hosting playdates or getting involved in community sports.
13. The best person to boost your child’s self-esteem is you! Positive reinforcement and encouragement are essential.
14. Say “I love you” all the time.