BookmarkBookmarkTickBookmarkAddCheckBoxFilledCheckBoxCircleBumpCheckedFilledMedical

Emotional Campaign Honors Babies Lost to Miscarriage and Stillbirth

“Replacing silence with storytelling is the most powerful way to honor ourselves and those we’ve lost.”
save article
profile picture of Stephanie Grassullo
By Stephanie Grassullo, Contributing Writer
Updated October 2, 2018

Clinical psychologist and writer Jessica Zucker started the #IHadaMiscarriage campaign in 2014 to discuss the impact of loss, how to provide support in these dark times and expel the “self-blame” ideology once and for all.

A recent clip on the campaign’s Instagram features powerful snippets of women opening up about the loss they’ve endured.

“Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month is upon us and we’ve decide[d] that replacing silence with storytelling is the most powerful way to honor ourselves and those we’ve lost. Representing our stories might be the very antidote to the lack of rituals that exist in our culture with regard to this fraught topic,” the caption explains.

Throughout the video, these grieving ladies share their miscarriages, stillbirth and pregnancy loss experiences, shedding light on an often “taboo” topic. At the end of the montage, Zucker calls others to action, encouraging them to “shed the stigma, shed the silence and replace the silence with storytelling.”

“We are actively stomping out the silence, bidding farewell to shame and saying so long to stigma… We are attempting to create [a] compassionate ritual where there is none,” the account explains.

Since the Instagram clip went live, it has already amassed more than 9,000 views and countless comments from others who’ve faced infant and pregnancy loss and applaud the doctor’s efforts.

“Thank you for doing this. When I went through my miscarriage in 2013, I don’t think my family knew how to help me or what to say. I turned to the internet to connect with other moms to get through the hard times. It helped me so much. I know it can help other moms as well,” says one mother.

Like many, this women found comfort in the movement, explaining “I’m currently going through my sixth loss, this time with identical twins. Needed this today.”

“I had two miscarriages back to back after trying to conceive for 15 years. No one around me could really understand how much it broke me. Not even my partner, who has been through it all with me. #IHadaMiscarriage has made a world of difference to me. It’s a place of gentleness and kindness, as we support each other in a way I have not seen or experienced elsewhere,” shares another.

Losing a baby to miscarriage or stillbirth is a tough blow to bare. After experiencing this tragedy, a natural reaction for most is to keep their emotions at bay. But compressing your feelings is never the way to cope with this grief. Join Zucker and countless others who’ve shared their story to end the silence.

Please note: The Bump and the materials and information it contains are not intended to, and do not constitute, medical or other health advice or diagnosis and should not be used as such. You should always consult with a qualified physician or health professional about your specific circumstances.

save article
Article removed.
Name added. View Your List

Next on Your Reading List

anne hathaway miscarriage 2015 during off broadway play "grounded"
Anne Hathaway Opens Up About Miscarriage During Off-Broadway Show
By Wyndi Kappes
woman sitting alone in doctor office waiting room
Viral Video Advocates for Separate Waiting Rooms at Ob-Gyn Offices
By Wyndi Kappes
Sad couple comforting each other.
Signs of Miscarriage: Everything You Need to Know
Medically Reviewed by Kendra Segura, MD
ultrasound photo and positive pregnancy test on rainbow background-rainbow baby concept
What Is a Rainbow Baby?
Medically Reviewed by Kendra Segura, MD
woman getting an ultrasound
What Is an Ectopic Pregnancy?
Medically Reviewed by Kendra Segura, MD
woman holding a pregnancy test close up
What Is a Chemical Pregnancy? Everything You Need to Know
Medically Reviewed by Kendra Segura, MD
roman woodward foundation roman wrap for stillborn babies
Mom Creates Special Baby Blanket to Parents Coping With Stillbirth
By Wyndi Kappes
couple holding hands during a hard time
New Bill Would Offer Paid Leave After a Family-Building Loss
By Wyndi Kappes
Actress Tiffany Haddish arrives on the red carpet at the 2023 ESPY Awards in Dolby Theatre in Hollywood Wednesday, July 12, 2023.
Tiffany Haddish Reminds Us Coping With Miscarriage Can Take Many Forms
By Wyndi Kappes
maya vander in hospital bed after giving birth to baby girl
Maya Vander Shares How She Navigated Pregnancy After Loss of Her Son
By Wyndi Kappes
Jenna Bush Hager pictured on the Hoda and Jenna Today show on Wednesday, March 1, 2023
Jenna Bush Hager Opens Up About Her Ectopic Pregnancy
By Wyndi Kappes
Meghan, Duchess of Sussex attends the 91st Field of Remembrance at Westminster Abbey on November 7, 2019 in London, England
Prince Harry Believes Tabloids Played a Part in Meghan’s Miscarriage
By Wyndi Kappes
Taylor Swift performs onstage during NSAI 2022 Nashville Songwriter Awards at Ryman Auditorium on September 20, 2022 in Nashville, Tennessee
Taylor Swift’s New Song Sparks Conversation Around Miscarriage
By Wyndi Kappes
person holding ultrasound photo
13 Different Types of Miscarriage and What They Mean
By Maggie Overfelt
best books to read after a miscarriage and best books to read to your children after having a miscarriage 2022
19 Helpful Books to Read After a Miscarriage
By Amy Stanford
Chrissy Teigen attends City Harvest Presents The 2022 Gala: Red Supper Club at Cipriani 42nd Street on April 26, 2022 in New York City
Chrissy Teigen Opens Up About Her Life-Saving Abortion in 2020
By Nehal Aggarwal
mother holding baby's hand with rainbow light reflected on them
America’s First-Ever Rainbow Clinic Is Here to Help
By Wyndi Kappes
britney spears and Sam Asghari kissing on red carpet of "Once Upon A Time...In Hollywood" movie premiere in July 2019
Britney Spears Announces Heartbreaking Miscarriage
By Wyndi Kappes
Cristiano Ronaldo Announces the Loss of His Newborn Son During Childbirth
Cristiano Ronaldo Announces the Loss of His Newborn Son During Childbirth
By Nehal Aggarwal
partners holding hands after suffering pregnancy loss
How Bodily Is Helping Raise Awareness for Pregnancy Loss This October
By Nehal Aggarwal
Article removed.