This Mom Doesn’t Want to “Lie” to Her Son About Santa
You know it’s time for the holidays when homes around your block flicker in festive lights and families are toting Christmas trees home atop their cars in droves. There are lots of recognizable images that spell Christmastime, but none so iconic as the figure that seems to embody all that is the season in a big bouncing belly, jolly laugh, and red jumpsuit. It’s no doubt that you’ll see some representation of Santa Claus out and about this month, but what about bringing him into your own home? One mom reaches out for advice about how not to introduce Santa into her family’s holiday traditions.
Mumsnet, a popular online British forum where moms share advice and information and discuss a variety of topics, is witnessing a heated debate in recent days—and it’s all because of ‘ol Saint Nick. User Herculesupatree reached out to the forum of moms for some guidance. She wrote:
“My DS [darling son] is 18 months, I don’t like the idea of lying to him so was thinking of not doing santa. We would still get him presents but they’d all be from us.
However, I’m wondering how we could play this with what we tell him, and how we explain it without:
- making him think he’s missing out and for some reason Santa is visiting other children and not him 2) alienating other mums at school etc. if he tells their children something which makes them realise the truth.
Anyone got any experience or ideas?”
The controversial stance on one of Christmas’ most beloved figures immediately sparked some impassioned responses. Moms fired back, “I think your looking at it all wrong. Do you not believe in white lies…I think you’d be doing a great disservice to your son,” and, “I feel sorry for your child. You will suck all the joy of fantasy and imagination out of his life. It’s not lying, it’s make believe.”
Meanwhile, other moms joined the conversation supporting the idea of foregoing Santa: “We don’t do Santa. DS was utterly terrified of him so we told him it is a game that people play and lots of children love to believe in Santa because they find it fun and it makes Christmas even more exciting and magical. He plays along with his friends at school because he is a very kind boy and understands that it wouldn’t be nice to spoil other people’s fun.” And another commenter struggled with the same issue, wondering, “I am still not sure how to address this with mine either. How do you explain that Father Christmas brings some children lots and others nothing,”
The question of just how much of the season’s fantasy to embrace has come up in threads before. Some parents are unsure as to what’s the “right thing” to do when it comes to make believe and traditions for their kids.
While there are lots of articles and heartfelt stories about how to break the news to your kids whether or not Santa is real, what about when parents don’t want to acknowledge Santa at all?