This Mom Wore One Earring to Send an Important Message About Motherhood

The devil is in the details.
ByAnisa Arsenault
Associate Editor
Published
Jun 2017

Shortly after Anastasia Aligiannis had her second baby, she actively started wearing just one earring.

Nobody noticed.

Unfortuntely, that’s what the Syndey, Australia, mom anticipated when she set out to see just how many people payed attention to her, not her kids, after birth.

“Turns out that it took seven months for anyone to notice I was only wearing one earring,” she writes on Facebook. “Seven months worth of social interactions, and no one ever looked me square in the face and noticed. It sort of cemented to me that as mum of then two children under 2 who was always out and about, who ‘just stayed at home’ or ‘didn’t work,’ I had just about become invisible; not just to society (who may not notice or be curious why just one earring), but to my family, to my friends and really maybe, if I am truly honest, even to myself.”

Aligiannis says that while friends and family would check in, they never asked about anything that pertained solely to her.

“Often my phone conversations (when and if I managed to have them) with family and friends would be ‘How are the children? How is the husband?’ Very rarely did anyone ask how I was.”

But why is Aligiannis sharing this on Facebook? Essentially, it’s to remind other moms she notices them.

“This post is to say that if today you are feeling overwhelmed, invisible or like you don’t matter, you really do,” she writes. “You are so important, and are probably the cog that keeps everything running smoothly. Keep up the good work, and if no one else says it to you this week know that you are invaluable in the work you do and your sacrifices do not go unnoticed.”

Comments of solidarity poured in.

“Totally been there, sending you a very visible mom hug!” one Facebook user writes.

“I remember being frustrated that I seemed to no longer have a name or identity…all of a sudden I was only known as ‘Zander’s mom.’” says another.

And the last adds a message of gratitude.

“I feel this way sometimes as well and it doesn’t feel all that great. My husband, bless his heart, has little attention to detail and I notice so much more. I told him how I felt and he really tries. I think we, as moms, get stuck in that rut and it seems to be noticed when something doesn’t go the way planned in THEIR lives. However, most often we are the glue. Thank you for not being invisible to your readers.”

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