Do You Kiss in Front of Your Kids? Here's What Parents Are Saying

The main risk? They might think you have cooties.
ByAnisa Arsenault
Associate Editor
Published
Aug 2017
Dad kissing mom on the forehead as she holds baby
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Worried about how your relationship will change after baby arrives? One concerned mom-to-be took to Reddit to pose a question: Will she and her husband have to tone down the affection once they’re parents?

“My husband and I have been together for 10 years and are expecting our first child at the end of the year,” Reddit user monamourmonami writes. “We both come from toxic homes and parents embittered by a nasty divorce so we didn’t grow up around much affection. We’re so in love and always touchy-feely with each other. We’re always hugging each other, holding hands and kissing/making out. In public we keep it clean, but our friends always tease us because we can’t keep our hands off each other. I’m wondering what to do when our baby is around…Is it ok for our child to see so much display of affection between her parents?”

Every single response said yes.

“Absolutely! Parental affection is very reassuring for kids. As long as you’re not groping each other in front of them, it’s fine,” the first answer reads.

Other commenters spoke from experience.

“I think it’s great if your children can see that you and your spouse are affectionate. My parents weren’t, and trust me, kids can tell, especially when they go to their friends’ houses.”

“Showing affection is wonderful. Making out in public is gross; nobody wants to see it or explain it to their kids. We hold hands, stand closely together/lean on one another, quick peck/kiss, hug and say, “I love you” all the time…What we reinforce is that physical affection is mutual, not one-sided and not forced. If my kids don’t want to hug/kiss an adult/grandparent, we fully stand behind them setting their own boundaries; no one should be forced to show affection.”

And speaking of boundaries, the Internet has spoken: affection is totally okay, but PDA is “gross.”

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