'Time Will Heal All Tantrums': a Case for Doing Nothing

Sometimes, you just have to ride it out.
ByAnisa Arsenault
Associate Editor
Published
Nov 2016
Closeup of an Asian child starting to have a temper tantrum.
Photo: Shuttestock

You know your child best. So there’s a pretty good chance you know when and how to soothe a tantrum and when that will be a fruitless endeavor. Australian blogger Constance Hall is here to encourage you to follow your instincts, even when you’re being judged.

“I heard someone refer to a mother of a child melting down as ‘just sitting there,’” she posted on Facebook. “I have been that mum. I have bribed, I have begged, I have stroked a child during a tantrum, I have lugged that child to the car, I reminded myself that it’s going to be okay and repeatedly told my child that I loved him, that she was going to see consequences if she didn’t stop…I have also been that woman who sat there and did nothing.”

Hall goes on to explain that doing nothing is a totally valid option.

“Any seasoned expert will tell you that sometimes the only thing you can do is nothing. Time will heal all tantrums,” she says. “So I asked my friend to not see [that mother] as the mum who ‘just sat there’ while her child melted down, and instead see her as the mum who ‘is always there’ while her child melts down.”

By now, it’s safe to say Hall is the epitome of empathetic and relatable. The Australian blogger has candidly nailed the contradictions of parenthood (“Your toddler actually ate dog sh*t yesterday yet won’t even try a meal that you slaved away to make him.”) and she’s even expressed thanks for those of us without kids (“You come to my kids parties, not because your kids have dragged you there but because you actually want to come.”).

For more of Hall’s posts, check out her blog, or her Facebook page, which she updates more frequently. And if you’re facing a tantrum that you think can be tamed, check out our 10 tips for doing so.

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