You try to be present, but with a million things going on, time spent with your kid and time spent on your phone are never going to be mutually exclusive. That's why some parents are taking offense to one daycare's sign urging them to "get off your phone."
The sign, posted at by a Hockley, Texas, daycare center in January, offers the following messsage:
"Are you picking up your child? Get off your phone!!!! Your child is happy to see you! Are you happy to see your child?? We have seen children trying to hand their parents their work they completed and the parent is on the phone. We have heard a child say 'Mommy, mommy, mommy...' and the parent is paying more attention to their phone than their own child. It is appalling. Get off your phone!!"
For some, this shaming approach feels like too much.
"I find this sign really judgmental and unnecessary. No parent is perfect," reads one comment. "What if the parent of the child mentioned just got a call that THEIR parent was in a serious accident? What if the call was about something really important at work, which is only just keeping their family afloat, barely able to afford to put food on the table? What if this parent works up until the minute they get their child home, then spends hours playing with them, and ensuring they get quality time with them? No one knows the inner workings of any parent-child reletionship unless you apart of it. Don't put up a blanket sign—sit down, have a conversation. Don't blame and shame, talk and listen."
For others, the bold approach is refreshing.
"Thanks, sometimes we just need a little reminder and that's exactly what this is," says another.
In light of the conflicting feedback, the daycare has since issued a small revision, while keeping their message the same: