The creators of Pregnancy Awareness Month, Anna Getty and Alisa Donner, share a behind-the-scenes peek at their cause and their advice for moms-to-be.
The Bump:** What were your goals when you started Pregnancy Awareness Month?**
Anna Getty : I noticed that for many women, pregnancy made them reevaluate their life path, and I really wanted them to feel supported. At the same time, I wanted there to be a celebration of this amazing and special time. Let’s move into motherhood feeling strong and excited! I don’t mean just about the gear and the baby, I mean about really becoming a woman.
Alisa Donner: Our belief is that women really want to have a month that’s dedicated to the magnificence of becoming a mom and going through childbirth. Women across the country want to be able to have their own celebration, and that’s what we let them do. Besides our main event in Los Angeles, this year we have over 20 events around the country. (You can find out more about these events at PregnancyAwareness.com.)
TB: If you could go back to when you were pregnant, what advice would you give yourself?
AG: If anything, I could’ve been a little bit more patient and kind to my husband. A lot of what was coming up from me was barely logical, but it was because of my hormones, so I’d say be kind to your partner who’s not going through hormonal changes. If I have another baby, I definitely will understand that whatever emotions are coming up, 95 percent of them are from the hormones.
AD: You need more help than you think you do after the baby is born. During pregnancy, I was in a bubble, like many women are. The baby brain has to do with the hormones changing, and your memory is affected, and you just get preoccupied. There was all this stuff I was worried about that was present-focused. I would just definitely tell myself to plan ahead better for the first three months postpregnancy.
TB: How can people offer support to pregnant women?
AG: Communicate in a kind, loving way — this is both for the pregnant woman and her family. As women, we expect our husbands to read our minds, especially when we’re pregnant; we’re so much more emotional, we’re so much needier.
AD: For other women who have been there before, share your experience. Share your knowledge and wisdom and offer being a resource. I think that’s really important, because kitchen-table wisdom, I think, is still the best wisdom for women, and that’s how we’ve gotten through.
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