How to Take Charge of Your Mental Health While Parenting During a Pandemic

Keep calm and parent on.
save article
profile picture of Dr. LaNail R. Plummer
By Dr. LaNail R. Plummer, CEO, Onyx Therapy Group
Published January 20, 2021
woman enjoying an exercise walk outdoors
Image: Getty Images

Who would have assumed that having to stay in our homes could be such a dynamic experience for people? Or could stretch on for. So. long.

For some, this time has been traumatic and painful, while others have seen it as wonderfully reflective and healing. Wherever you find yourself on the spectrum, each of us are experiencing things we have never experienced before. Not to mention, we are in the midst of a season that can only be compared to as the most dramatic plot arc in a Shakespearian play— a run of intersections between a pandemic, moral and justice dissonance, tragic loss of life, employment, goals, and opportunities—alongside so much more. But, we can find hope in all of this. We just need to make an active choice to see the situation for the fullness of chance versus the fear of change. Here are some tips to see you through the finish line of this pandemic.

Acknowledge Losses

Address and reflect upon any loss that you experienced in 2020 (ex. life of a loved one, loss of an opportunity, loss of a dream) and find a way to memorialize them and honor your feelings. This is crucial.

Take a Time Out

Check in on yourself. How are you really feeling? Take a body scan and journal questions for yourself. Or opt for a mental break—doing nothing allows your brain to recharge. Drink lots of water and reconnect with things that bring you joy—childhood pastimes are a great place to start!

Set Boundaries

Enforce strong boundaries around your time (avoid saying “I’ll just do one more thing”—have grace with yourself), your desires, and your needs. Do what you need to do to feel good? After the year that seemed to continually kick us while we were down, being kind to yourself is a nonnegotiable.

Related Video

Get Dressed Up

Although there may not be much happening to prompt us to dress up, you still can and should show up for yourself! Go for cute, comfy, or both. Getting dressed can be a huge motivator and can aid in a sense of routine or normalness when things are anything but.

Move Your Body

Take a morning walk, perform a TikTok dance-off with the kids, or even move furniture and accessories around to inspire a new look in your space. Mix it up to keep it exciting and get outside if you can.

Create Something

Clean out your pantry and cook a new recipe, make art (use finger paints or products that are already in your house), or pick up a new hobby like needlepointing or paint by numbers. Include your kids in the process too.

Stay Connected

Use technology to keep in contact with the people who matter most. Make cookies with your extended family, play a virtual game, watch a movie together, or create a story (think of the old game called “Telephone”). Be sure to coordinate timing and aid any older family members who may need some help using new technology.

Dr. LaNail R. Plummer is the CEO of Onyx Therapy Group, a company whose mission is centered on addressing mental health issues, disparities, and inequalities in communities, organizations, and individuals in need. She has over 15 years of experience working with a multitude of clients, and specializing in the care of young women; the Black community; and members of the LGBTQ+ community. For more tips, check out and follow @onyxtherapygroup on Instagram.

Please note: The Bump and the materials and information it contains are not intended to, and do not constitute, medical or other health advice or diagnosis and should not be used as such. You should always consult with a qualified physician or health professional about your specific circumstances.

save article

Next on Your Reading List

nervous woman thinking at home
How to Tell if You’re Experiencing Postpartum Anxiety
Medically Reviewed by Kendra Segura, MD
Ryan Reynolds attends Paramount's "If" New York premiere at SVA Theater on May 13, 2024 in New York City
How Ryan Reynolds Has Turned His Anxiety Into His Parenting Superpower
By Wyndi Kappes
mother holding baby clothes
Why Is Getting Rid of Baby’s Old Clothes So Hard?
By Natalie Gontcharova
chrissy teigen at home with her 4 children
Chrissy Teigen Shares the Hardest Part of Being a Mom of Four
By Wyndi Kappes
tired mom holding baby in nursery
Why Black Moms Face Higher Rates of Burnout (and How to Cope)
By A. Rochaun Meadows-Fernandez
mother in deep thought while holding baby
How the Concept of ‘Matrescence’ Can Help You Navigate Parenthood
By Natalie Gontcharova
Michael Vaughn tik tok about reducing mental stress for wife
One Dad's Viral Tips for Reducing Your Partner's Solo Parenting Stress
By Wyndi Kappes
Even America’s Comedy King Jack Black Struggles With Parenting Anxiety
Even America’s Comedy King Jack Black Struggles With Parenting Anxiety
By Wyndi Kappes
mom hugging young child
How to Cope With the Emotional Aftermath of Another School Shooting
By The Bump Editors
mother pondering while sitting on bed with baby
What to Know About Postpartum Psychosis
By Nehal Aggarwal
mother cuddling newborn baby
8 Things New Parents Can Do for an Easier Postpartum Period
By Elena Donovan Mauer
exhausted mother playing with toddler
Parental Burnout Is Real—Here’s How to Cope
By Marygrace Taylor
mother and baby reading a book on the couch at home
What TikTok’s “Scrunchy Moms” Want You to Know
By Wyndi Kappes
James Van Der Beek attends the 2019 iHeartRadio Music Festival at T-Mobile Arena on September 20, 2019 in Las Vegas, Nevada
James Van Der Beek's Viral Parenting Hack for Roadtripping With Six Kids
By Wyndi Kappes
mother holding sleeping baby on sofa at home
20 Positive Parenting Affirmations to Boost Your Mental Health
By Nehal Aggarwal
mother holding and comforting baby at home
What Over 70 Percent of Millennial Moms Aren’t Telling You
By Wyndi Kappes
worried mother holding baby while looking out of the window at home
Why Moms Need to Shift Their Perspective on Asking for Help
By Nehal Aggarwal
annoyed mother sitting at table with toddler
The Truth About Mom Rage and How to Tame Your Inner Anger
By Lauren Barth
mother looking at her baby with the ocean in the background
Adjusting to Motherhood May Take Longer Than You Think (and That’s OK)
By Kylie McConville
Allyson Felix Opens Up About Her NICU Journey With Daughter Camryn
Allyson Felix Opens Up About Her NICU Journey With Daughter Camryn
By Nehal Aggarwal
Article removed.
Article removed.
Name added. View Your List