Taylor Swift’s New Song Sparks Conversation Around Miscarriage

Taylor Swift’s new song Bigger Than The Whole Sky is helping people put the grief around their miscarriage into words.
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By Wyndi Kappes, Associate Editor
Published October 25, 2022
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Taylor Swift’s highly-anticipated new album, Midnights, has once again left plenty of emotions in its wake. Between the angsty Anti-Hero and playful Snow On The Beach, parents who have experienced a miscarriage are finding deep meaning and words for their grief in the sorrowful Bigger Than The Whole Sky ballad.

While many say the song is more of a reflection on grief and losing someone in general, several Swifties and Twitter users have pointed to the specific connection between Bigger Than The Whole Sky’s chorus and what it’s like to go through a miscarriage and mourn the loss of never getting to know your baby.

“Goodbye, goodbye, goodbye / You were bigger than the whole sky / You were more than just a short time / And I’ve got a lot to pine about / I’ve got a lot to live without.”

“I’m never gonna meet / What could’ve been, would’ve been / What should’ve been you / What could’ve been, would’ve been you.”

Whether the song is expressly about pregnancy loss or not, many have found healing in just hearing their raw emotions put into words. “When I listened to Bigger Than the Whole Sky all I could see in my mind is the baby I lost and this put words to everything I’ve felt since the miscarriage. I can’t imagine this being about anything else,” Ashley Fritz shared on social media.

Others chimed in on her post, commenting, “It so perfectly captures everything I felt during and after my miscarriage,” and “‘I’ll never get to meet what could’ve, should’ve been you’ broke me into tears on my drive to work.” Hundreds gathered on the Taylor Swift Sub Reddit to talk about Bigger Than The Whole Sky, share their heartbreaking stories and find comfort in a shared community.

Perhaps one Reddit user put it best when she said, “I appreciate that regardless of what she had specifically in mind while writing this, that it’s a song that we, as her fans, can relate to when going through some pretty awful things.”

If you have experienced a miscarriage or pregnancy loss, know that you aren’t alone. As this outpouring of stories shows, a whole community of parents are waiting and willing to grieve with you and comfort you throughout your journey. Find a way forward through your pregnancy loss and get support here.

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