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Signs You're a Gummy Bear Mom—Plus, Why It’s Cool (and Healthy!) to Be One

Rainbow-colored cereal! Ice cream before dinner! Find out how a relaxed approach to feeding kids could actually help them build healthier eating habits.
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By Holly Pevzner, Contributing Writer
Published May 7, 2025
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While standing in the grocery store checkout line, I can’t help but notice the mom in front of me. Her cart—stuffed with sugary breakfast cereals, Doritos and chocolate-smothered snacks—stands in stark contrast to my own haul of produce, whole grains and no-added-sugar everything. I feel the familiar mix of defensiveness (“She probably thinks I’m one of those judgy almond moms”) and concern (“That’s a lot of sugar!”).

At least according to TikTok, this mom is a “gummy bear mom,” whose approach to feeding her kids is the opposite of an “almond mom.” (And if you’re tired of social media labels, we get it—but this is just for fun.) “Let’s clear up something about gummy bear moms,” says Natalie Gontcharova, senior editor at The Bump and mom of one, who says she identifies with the label. “Most of us aren’t just letting our kids subsist on Fruit Loops and Oreos. I attempt to get some type of protein and fruit or veggie into each meal, but if my kid wants a cookie after dinner (which he usually does) then that’s available for him. I also let him snack whenever he wants, and I regularly buy ‘fun’ holiday-themed treats to mix things up. It’s all about balance, convenience and avoiding restrictions.”

Ready to embrace some food flexibility and help your kids do the same? Ahead, find out everything you need to know about being a gummy bear mom—including ways to discover your own balance.

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What Is a Gummy Bear Mom?

If you’re not yet familiar with the gummy bear mom, here’s the gist: “She tends to be the ‘fun food’ mom,” explains Dani Lebovitz, MS, RDN, a pediatric registered dietitian, creator of Kid Food Explorers, and co-author of the forthcoming book Food Positivity: How to Ditch Diet Culture and Talk to Kids About Food. “She doesn’t restrict sweets, avoids pressure and wants food to be joyful.”

Like many parenting trends, the term gained traction on TikTok. Creators like Jersey Justyna celebrate gummy bear moms’ well-stocked pantries (the envy of neighborhood kids) and enthusiastically embrace the coveted Costco run. But as Chacha Miller, RD, a maternal and pediatric registered dietitian and mom of two in Washington, DC, notes, the concept of the gummy bear mom represents more than just a social media label—it’s “a kind of rebellion against the rigidity of the almond mom.”

What a gummy bear mom is not: A totally permissive parent who throws junk food at their kids and doesn’t care what they eat. (At least, the majority aren’t.) In fact, many gummy bear moms consciously work to make sure their kids have good relationships with food. “As a mom of a daughter, I think it’s really important to be mindful of the language I use around food,” says Paige H. a mom of one in Tempe, Arizona. “We make a point not to label food as ‘good’ or ‘bad.’ The goal is to encourage a healthy relationship with food, without the guilt or pressure that can come from strict rules.”

Signs You Might Be a Gummy Bear Mom

You might be a gummy bear mom if…

  • You always have fruit snacks in your purse (or Goldfish, or yogurt pouches…)
  • You’ve served cereal as a meal
  • Your kids have opened the fridge and helped themselves since they could walk (and you’re totally cool with that)
  • When kids come over for playdates, they raid your pantry
  • Everyone at the playground flocks to you for snacks

Gummy Bear Mom vs. Almond Mom

You’ve probably met an almond mom at some point. She “labels food as ‘clean’ or ‘bad,’ and typically worries about body size,” explains Lebovitz. “Her intentions are good, but the message her kids hear is that food is something to control or fear.” Suffice it to say, when almond mom meets gummy bear mom for a playdate, it can get awkward.

The gummy bear mom “doesn’t put any restrictions on their child’s food intake and doesn’t focus on healthy eating, typically allowing candy, treats, chips and other processed foods,” says pediatric dietitian Madison Tyler, RDN, owner of Nourish with Connection and a mom of two in Memphis. Guilt and restriction? Not in a gummy bear mom’s house.

But before you pick a side in this parenting face-off, Lebovitz cautions that “viral terms like ‘almond mom’ and ‘gummy bear mom’ aren’t official food parenting approaches.” She adds, “They’re also very vague, leaving a lot of room for interpretation by different creators.” In short, there’s a lot of room in-between—and it’s important to find the balance that’s right for you rather than focusing on labels.

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Why It’s Good to Be a Gummy Bear Mom

Worried that letting kids have more food freedom means total chaos (and a massive dental bill)? You don’t need to be. “For me, the gummy bear mom approach is rooted in trust and balance,” says Lauren Manaker, MS, RDN, a registered dietitian nutritionist and a self-proclaimed gummy bear mom in Charleston, South Carolina. “By allowing candy or treats into your lives, a gummy bear mom models the idea that no food is inherently ‘bad.’ She’s teaching her children that it’s okay to enjoy everything in moderation without guilt.”

Dropping the food judgment can help kids understand their hunger cues and trust their bodies. “We help kids tune into their bodies, feel confident in their choices and explore food with curiosity,” says Lebovitz. “They start to notice what they like, what they need and how food makes them feel.”

Manaker saw this firsthand one Halloween, when leftover candy was a snack option during a playdate. “A few of my daughter’s friends ate a lot of candy, then hid the wrappers because they were afraid of getting in trouble,” she says. “Meanwhile, my daughter enjoyed a piece or two and moved on. And she was confused about the wrapper-hiding. My daughter didn’t feel the urge to binge because she’s allowed to have treats as part of normal life.”

Perhaps the most unexpected benefit? Being a gummy bear mom might just help you on your own food journey. “For many parents, offering food without fear or shame can be a powerful first step in healing their own relationship with food,” says Lebovitz. “When you feed your child with warmth, flexibility and joy, you’re often re-parenting yourself at the same time. You’re giving yourself permission to rewrite your food story too.”

In my home, we focus on balance. We try to limit sugar where we can, but if my daughter wants chicken nuggets for dinner, we just roll with it. I know she’s getting a variety of nutritious foods at school, so I don’t stress over the fact that she’s not eating a kale salad at 4 years old.

Paige H.

Mom of one in Tempe, Arizona

Tips to Help Your Kids Have a Healthy Relationship With Food

If you’re new to the gummy bear mom scene and intrigued by it, follow these expert strategies to help you find your sweet spot when it comes to feeding your kids.

Create balance without pressure

The goal isn’t to let kids eat only what they want, but to create a balanced environment where both nutritious foods and treats have a place. “If your child has access to a lot of, say, gummy bears, it really shouldn’t be to the exclusion of vegetables,” says Zoë Bisbing, LCSW, a body image and eating disorders psychotherapist, mom of three and founder of Body-Positive Home.

Make dessert part of meals

“I encourage parents to put dessert on the same plate as the meal,” says Elizabeth P. Davenport, MPH, RDN, a registered dietitian in Alexandria, Virginia. Then, let the kids eat their food in whatever order they choose—without commenting. While the urge to say, “Eat your peas first!” is natural, Davenport insists this approach levels the playing field. Restricting access to sweets only increases interest in them, she adds. If you treat dessert as just another part of the meal, kids learn to trust their internal cues and make peace with all foods.

Turn food into a family adventure

Turn mealtimes into opportunities for discovery, Bisbing suggests. Visit farmers’ markets, community vegetable gardens, explore different cultural foods and make cooking a family activity. “Give them opportunities to help prepare food with you,” says Davenport. This collaborative approach helps kids feel empowered while expanding their palate. “My only real ‘rule’ is that my son tries a new food once a week—and that can be a veggie or a new flavor of ice cream,” says Gontcharova.

Keep food conversations age-appropriate

“Young kids are concrete thinkers,” explains Davenport. “Instead of focusing on nutrition rules, keep it simple. Ask what they like about different foods. Talk about textures and colors. Notice if something is crunchy or soft. Does it smell sweet? Is it cold or warm?”

Build long-term food confidence

Children often need multiple exposures to accept new foods, explains Bisbing, adding that it’s important to be patient and offer foods without pressuring. This approach helps kids develop trust in their bodies and food choices.

Attitudes toward food are very personal, and there’s no reason to feel mom guilt whether you’re a gummy bear mom, an almond mom or something in-between. Developing a healthy relationship with food can be a lifelong process. Remember that the goal isn’t perfection—it’s creating a home where food brings nourishment and satisfaction. Above all, remember: “When consumed in moderation, no single food will make or break your child’s overall health,” says Manaker.

Please note: The Bump and the materials and information it contains are not intended to, and do not constitute, medical or other health advice or diagnosis and should not be used as such. You should always consult with a qualified physician or health professional about your specific circumstances.

Sources

Zoë Bisbing, LCSW, is a body image and eating disorders psychotherapist, mom of three and founder of Body-Positive Home.

Elizabeth P. Davenport, MPH, RDN, is a registered dietitian in Alexandria, Virginia.

Dani Lebovitz, MS, RDN, is a pediatric registered dietitian, creator of Kid Food Explorers, and the co-author of the forthcoming book Food Positivity: How to Ditch Diet Culture and Talk to Kids About Food.

Lauren Manaker, MS, RDN, is a registered dietitian nutritionist in Charleston, South Carolina.

Chacha Miller, RD, is a maternal and pediatric registered dietitian and mom of two in Washington, DC.

Madison Tyler, RDN, is a pediatric dietitian, the owner of Nourish with Connection and a mother of two in Memphis.

Real-parent perspectives:

  • Natalie Gontcharova, senior editor at The Bump and mom of one
  • Paige H., a mom of one in Tempe, Arizona

Learn how we ensure the accuracy of our content through our editorial and medical review process.

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