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Mom Shares Powerful Message Years After Being Told She Could Never Have Kids

“To all those people who feel that there is no hope. This is for you.”
PUBLISHED ON 12/05/2018

Heather Crockett Oram recently gained online fame after she shared the heartwarming story of her family with Love What Matters. Throughout the sweet post, Crockett Oram discusses her journey with adoption, and how it changed her life in remarkable ways.

In a recent Instagram post, she speaks out to other hopeful partners who want to grow their family, but are facing obstacles along the way.

“To all the women who yearn to be a mom. To all the parents who have cried at night because they have experienced infertility and been through hell and back again to have a child. To all those people who feel that there is no hope. This is for you,” she says.

When Crockett Oram was just a teenager, she was told she wouldn’t be able to have biological kids. The news hit the young girl hard, and it took her some time to process what it all meant.

“As a 13-year-old child, I found out that I would never have a child that would share my DNA,” she explains. “I felt flawed. I felt broken. I felt that because of this reason, no man would ever want to marry me. Those feelings to me were very real.”

Of course the teen couldn’t know the course her life would take, or how being a mom was still very much a possibility.

“I wish I could go back and tell that little girl just how blessed my life would be with five handsome boys. It was not easy,” she admits. “There were highs and lows. There were periods of doubt and frustration, and moments of wanting to completely give up.

Yet, in the end, she wouldn’t have it any other way.

“But when I look at these two, I can’t help but smile. “They are my world and I feel like the luckiest mom on the planet.”

No matter how your experience with infertility may be different from someone else’s, remember you’re not alone.

“One thing I have learned from response to the [Love What Matters] article I wrote is that there are millions of people who experience some form of infertility,” she says. “You are not alone. We are all in this together. And I can’t wait for your story to unfold.”

While adopting a child may not always be easy, it’s a beautiful thing. Adoption helped make one Utah couple’s family complete, where they welcomed four beautiful kids in less than 24 hours.

PHOTO: Andrik Langefield