What This Stranger Did to a Pregnant Woman Drinking Coffee Will Piss You Off

There’s so much women have to give up when they discover they’re pregnant. It’s totally worth it because baby is the ultimate sacrifice, but it doesn’t necessarily make it easy. One mom-to-be was indulging in her cup of joe—which doctors say is okay to have in small amounts—when she was publicly shamed by a heated grandma. Frazzled by the course of events, the expectant mama took to Reddit to share the crazy conflict she had with the stranger.

The woman, who goes by the username of CountingTheRavens, says she is 36 weeks pregnant and “uncomfortable, tired and grumpy.” After ordering a cup of coffee at a local coffee shop, a random stranger decided to discipline her. “You can’t have that, you’re not allowed,” the older customer insisted as she threw the expectant mama’s coffee in the trash. The barista offered to make her another cup, while the pregnant woman explained to the stranger her doctor said it was okay. “I get one cup a day. This is it.”

But that wasn’t good enough. Apparently, it’s a sore subject for the older woman, who the mom-to-be says caused a scene yelling about her own daughter who is also pregnant and drinks coffee. “If I can’t save her, I’ll save you instead,” the grandma yelled.

After the barista handed the woman another cup of coffee and the older lady tried to snatch it from her once again, the Reddit user says she nearly lost her mind. “I yelled for her to stop trying to come near me,” she says. “I literally loudly—and even now have a bit of a shake from doing it—shouted ‘please leave me alone. You’re making me uncomfortable…’” Feeling defeated, the grandma gave up her efforts to “save” the woman and left the coffee shop in a tizzy.

For starters, it was uncalled for for the older woman to aggressively shame the mom-to-be about something that’s none of her business. Not to mention, the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) say a “moderate amount” of caffeine during pregnancy—defined as less than 200 milligrams per day—“does not appear to be a major contributing factor in miscarriage or preterm birth.” So you likely won’t be able to down coffee like you used to during pregnancy, but a simple cup every now and then is okay. Even if the grandma really did think she was doing the expectant woman a service by warning her, getting a pregnant person all worked up does way more harm than good.

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