How Friendship Changes When You and Your Best Friends Become Moms

“Okay, I’m coming, but I’m so tired I may fall asleep right in this glass of wine.”
ByStephanie Grassullo
Associate Editor
Published
Oct 2018
moms laughing and hanging out
Photo: Priscilla du Preez

“Friendship looks a little different in your 30s than it used to.”

Mom and popular lifestyle blogger Amy Weatherly shared some sweet sentiments on how your friend group evolves when you all become mothers. And for many, motherhood marks a turning point in the group text, where conversations go from recounting last night’s crazy shenanigans to commiserating with each other over your lack of sleep because baby cried through the night (again!).

And while the conversations have changed, the friendships have only been made stronger. Here’s what friendship, “now looks like,” according to Weatherly:

  • Hanging out together on the bleachers at baseball games
  • A quick hug in the parking lot at school pickup time
  • Group texts that make you laugh out loud
  • ‘Okay, I’m coming, but I’m so tired I may fall asleep right in this glass of wine’
  • Half conversations at birthday parties that keep getting interrupted by screaming kiddos
  • Hiding in your closet for a three minute conversation on the phone
  • Quick little chats in the aisles at Target
  • ‘I’ll come, but only if I can wear stretchy pants’
  • ‘I miss you,’ and meaning it with your whole heart

The Texas mama hits the nail on the head. And while keeping up with your friends won’t always be easy, it’ll be worth it.

“Whatever you have to do, however you have to do it, make time for your friendships. Make time for the people who feel like home,” she advises.

Whether your mom friends are lifelong pals you grew up with or a tight-knit circle of women you met later in life, your mom tribe will help you get through all the crazy ups and downs motherhood throws at you.

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