A mom’s to do list is never complete. A new study published in the journal Sex Roles and discussed in a recent Mashable article will attest to this. The researchers refer to mothers as the “captains of households” for keeping their families afloat—often at the expense of their own wellbeing.
Of course you wouldn’t trade being a mother for the world, but sometimes you can’t help but feel underappreciated and overworked. And, according to researchers, that’s because you are.
The study surveyed nearly 400 mothers who were either married or had partners, and the majority of them felt like they were running the parenting show alone. A staggering 90 percent say they are solely responsible for organizing their family’s many schedules, and 70 percent say they complete most of the household tasks that keep their families running smoothly.
The stress adds up. The study’s authors say sole responsibility over household and familial jobs can lead to overwhelming feelings of emptiness, and puts a toll on your relationship with your partner.
There are few ways for moms to combat this. First, the study encourages moms to talk to their partner about household expectations and sharing parenting roles. Quick but frequent time spent dedicated to your relationship is necessary. It doesn’t have to be formal, and can even be a few minutes set aside to chat and make sure you’re both on the same page. The Lasting app can also help in this area. It works with both of you to keep your marriage healthy and on track.
Another outlet to help boost moms’ morale is finding support from fellow mothers. There’s a reason why everyone says mom friends are the best friends. Other moms know what you’re going through, and can relate to the many feelings–good and bad—you experience on any given Tuesday. If you don’t have a mom tribe yet, don’t sweat it. There are lots of ways to find your core group of ladies.
Remember, you shouldn’t have to silently suffer. Stay open with your friends and family so they can pick you up before you fall.