Potty Training Twins?

My daughter seems ready to be potty trained, but my son — not so much. What should I do?
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ByPreeti Parikh, MD
Pediatrician
Updated
Mar 2017
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Wouldn’t it be great if you could just stop buying diapers all at once? Sorry but having two kids means there are two different bodies, and each will be ready in his or her own sweet time. Girls do seem to  potty train a little faster than boys, so it’s perfectly normal that your daughter has started before your son.

Many kids potty train around age 2 or 2 ½ years old, but it’s important to know that your child is ready before you start. You can start off trying to train both, but be if one starts  rebelling or regressing, it’s not worth pushing. (It won’t work anyhow!)

One big advantage twins have in the potty training department is that they’re constantly exposed to each other’s behavior. So once one twin sees the other using the potty, he may become more interested. Know that while some parenting guides encourage things like reward charts for achieving potty training goals, this can sometimes backfire with twins. It’s only natural for them to compete and compare, so giving one a behavior reward and not the other can be challenging. Offer treats, but keep it simple (like an M&M or a sticker) and be sensitive to both toddlers’ feelings.

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