'the List of Horribly Wrong Misconceptions I Had About Stay-at-Home Moms'

For starters, the house won’t be any cleaner.
ByStephanie Grassullo
Associate Editor
Published
Jan 2019
mom at home holding and kissing her baby
Photo: Caitlin Rhea Spaulding

Casey Huff had a lot of preconceptions about what life would be like as a stay-at-home mom. But once the elementary teacher turned SAHM stepped into her new shoes, she quickly learned she was terribly mistaken.

Here’s what Huff assumed would happen:

  • The house would be cleaner
  • She’d get more sleep
  • She’d be able to read for pleasure again

“Chalk that one up on the list of horribly wrong misconceptions I had about stay-at-home moms before actually becoming one myself,” she admits in a recent Facebook post.

Like many, she had no idea what it’s really like to be a SAHM.

“I didn’t realize that while, yes, I’d be home most days to clean [the] house, my kids would also be home every day to make more messes…and I’d find myself spinning in a hamster wheel that never, ever slows down,” Huff explains.

The mom then describes the happenings of her day home with the kids, and it is anything but relaxing. To sum it up, her day starts and ends with the same pile of laundry, because—you guessed it—with kids who need her constant attention, it’s nearly impossible to get anything done.

“And now it’s 4:51, my husband will be home from work soon, I haven’t started making dinner, the house is in worse shape than it was when I woke up this morning and I still haven’t thrown the dish towels in the dryer,” she says.

Now, she’s changed her tune quite a bit, explaining “this is what being a stay-at-home mom really looks like:”

  • You will likely not have a clean house
  • There will be no extra sleep
  • Your book will remain a coaster on your bedside table for the next 18 years

But what’s most important is, “you will survive and you will love it (most days).”

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