How to Find the Best Nanny for Your Family
September 17, 2020
You can begin your nanny search by asking friends and family for recommendations; by going online to caregiver listings websites, local message boards and college job boards; or by registering with a nanny placement agency. Katie Bugbee, executive editor at caregiver listings website Care.com, recommends that parents give themselves three months to find a nanny. It can take awhile to find someone you love. Plus, it’s not uncommon for there to be heated competition with other families, so the right one could get away, lengthening your search.
Caregiver Listings Sites
Websites that provide listings of prescreened nannies let you in on a lot of information about a caregiver — such as their experience, availability, salary requirements, background check and references — to help you decide whether you want to meet them. These are a few popular ones:
Sittercity adds 2,000 caregivers to its database per day, including nannies, babysitters and pet sitters. For $35 a month, $70 for three months or $140 for a year, you can post a job and get access to caregivers’ profiles that include a description of experience, a photo, availability, a background check, references and referrals.
Care.com has a free basic membership that allows users to post a job description and to have access to prescreened caregiver profiles. In order to contact a caregiver and be able to view basic background checks, a user must upgrade to a premium membership for $37 a month, or $147 for a full year.
Nannies4hire.com offers three different member packages. All memberships allow parents to post jobs and view caregiver profiles, save their top picks and conduct an advanced search. Basic membership is $120 for 30 days. For $150, members receive 60 days of access to a multistate criminal history search, and for $220, members receive four months of comprehensive background checks.
University Job Boards
Most universities have job boards that allow individuals to post for a position that they’re seeking to fill. If you’re looking for a part-time babysitter or a graduate student who’s available for a full-time nanny position, this may be a good option for you.
Local Message Boards
If there are local message boards for new moms in your area, chances are they’ll feature “nanny available” listings. These are usually posted by moms who are trying to find a new position for a nanny they no longer need. These boards are also an ideal place to put up a “nanny wanted” post. If you live in a small community, the recommendations for nannies that you receive might even come from an acquaintance or a friend of a friend.
Nanny Placement Agencies
Agencies offer the highest level of service, and with that comes a hefty price tag. So what’s the advantage of using an agency? According to Kathleen Webb, cofounder of the company that runs NannyNetwork.com, “Agencies are a great route for families that are pressed for time and especially for first-time nanny employers. The agency can cut 40-plus hours of effort out of the hiring process.” An agency prescreens nannies and interviews couples to get a detailed snapshot of what they’re looking for and will send only those candidates’ portfolios that meet their requirements. Once a nanny is selected, agencies will help their clients prepare the employment offer and work agreement.
If you find a nanny through an agency, the fee will typically be 10 to 15 percent of the nanny’s annual salary. A nanny’s salary is typically between $21,000 and $52,000 per year, depending on where you live, whether she lives in your home and how many hours a week she’ll work. To find a local agency, you can use the search tool on NannyNetwork.com.
Conducting an agency search? Webb says, “Families should look for agencies that are members of national organizations such as the Alliance of Premier Nanny Agencies or the International Nanny Association. These organizations have membership criteria and codes of conduct their members must agree to.”
Parents tend to focus on the immediate needs of their newborn — basically, the need for a warm and nurturing caregiver — but, according to Bugbee, parents should think beyond their three-month-old. “Consider your child going from sitting to crawling, walking, running, jumping and leaping. Think of whom you want to handle discipline and control tantrums. A great nanny is someone who can grow with your child and challenge him or her along the way.” Bugbee also cautions that parents often base a decision on what they think will be best for the child rather than thinking about the needs of the whole family. “It’s important to find that person who’s going to be there for your whole family, not just for your kids.”
Ask friends who have older children what they think are the most important attributes in a nanny. You and your partner can use this input to help make a list of which child care talents and abilities are a priority for you. Use this list as a reference for the interview questions that you’ll ask potential candidates and for a job description that you may write to post.
Once you’ve settled on three to five nannies as the best candidates, the interview process can begin.
Bugbee recommends that parents ask questions they think the nanny doesn’t expect. This will reduce the number of canned responses and will get to some truths. She also recommends asking lots of “what if” questions — like “What would you do if you got locked out of the house with the kids?” or “What would you do if my daughter fell and hit her head?” — to get a sense of how a nanny would handle an emergency. “You want to allow a candidate to think on her feet, since that’s what she’d be doing if an urgent situation happened,” Bugbee explains.
You’ll want to ask questions to find out what a nanny’s discipline strategy is. You’ll also want to get a sense of her energy level and creativity, says Bugbee. Ask, “What kinds of activities do you like to do with kids?” and see if she has ideas for things to do that don’t necessarily cost a lot of money. And you want someone who will actively play with your child, not just sit and watch.
As part of the interview process, have the candidate play with your child. See how she interacts with him. Does she seem to enjoy it? Does she seem engaged? Confident? See what your child’s response is. Ideally he will enjoy the interaction but if he’s tired or shy, you can always have a favored candidate return for a second visit (paid!) with your child to see how they get along.
When you’ve found a nanny you love, it’s important to do some official fact-checking. As you check a nanny’s references, you’ll want to ask challenging and specific questions. For instance, ask a reference to reveal one bad thing about their experience with the nanny. Find out how often the nanny was unable to come to work. Ask the reference if they’ve ever checked up on the nanny. To get a sense of a nanny’s engagement level for the child she cared for, ask her reference what outings she arranged for the child and if she arranged playdates.
Once you think you’ve settled on a nanny, you’ll want to run a background check to be sure she doesn’t have a criminal record. Sittercity and Care.com both offer background checks for caregivers, or you can use a site like Intelius.com, which will provide you with a full background check for a fee, usually about $60 to $175, depending on how comprehensive the search is.
After you’ve made an official decision, it’s time to make an offer. But how much should you pay? First, see Care.com’s Babysitter Calculator to find out the average per hour cost of a nanny in your ZIP code. You’ll also want to ask around to see what other parents you know pay their nannies.
And just like other employers, you’ll need to set policies for vacation time, sick days and overtime. Talk this over with your partner and consider putting it all into a contract for your nanny so you can be sure everyone’s on the same page. “This protects you and the nanny. It makes everything straightforward,” says Bugbee. “Put your discipline policy in there and anything you don’t want your nanny to do, like talking on her cell phone in the car or in the house when the baby is up.” Find a sample nanny contract on NannyNetwork.com that you can use as a template for your own.