Q&A: Picking a Name for My Baby When the Gender Is a Surprise?

I want the gender of my baby to be a surprise. Is it better to pick one gender-neutral name or one for each gender?
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ByAmy Stanford
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Feb 2017
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The answer here really depends on you and your partner. There’s no right or wrong way to go about this, as long as you both weigh the pros and cons to each route and go with what works for you. One perk to picking out a gender-neutral name is that you can begin to associate baby with that name throughout your pregnancy. Sure, you may not know the gender yet, but you won’t have to refer to your little one as “the baby,” or even “it,” the whole time. And by the time baby arrives, you’ll have already gotten used to calling them by their name. That said, some cultures actually believe that referring to a baby by name before birth is bad luck; so if this is the case with your family, this might not be the way to go.

Of course, not everyone can find one gender-neutral name that suits them. So if you’re not really into any, you should probably focus on finding a few boy and girl names you absolutely love and letting nature do the rest. Look at it this way: It will definitely add to the fun and surprise of delivery day.

Either way, it’s important to start researching early and decide on a name you love.

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