I’ll do that myself, thank you
Your little rebel may be resisting every attempt you make at feeding, changing, getting him in the car seat, washing hands…just about anything. Toddlers this age like to feel like they’re in control, so offer lots of opportunities for him to “help” or make his own choices. Let him feed himself, for example (even if it’s messy), and if he says he’s done after two bites, so be it. You can also try conning your kid by asking things like “Do you want to bring your teddy for the ride, or your truck?” as you climb in the car instead of “Will you get in your car seat please?” or “Get in the car seat now,” which are both likely to elicit big, fat “no’s.”
[tip] Feel like a short-order cook? It’s okay to let your toddler know that “this is what’s for dinner” and not offer other options. He won’t starve by refusing a meal now and then.
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