Video of a 4-Year-Old Calling Herself Ugly Shares an Important Message

Self-confidence and self-love often starts at a young age. Yet, some parents might have the upsetting experience of having their child say to them they feel inferior to those around them, either because they’re “ugly” or “dumb” or something else. Now, one heartbreaking video of a 4-year-old girl calling herself ugly is going viral—and it shares an important message.

The video was posted to IGTV by a Georgia-based hairdresser identified as Shabria in the comments. In it, 4-year-old Ariyonna says to the camera, “I’m so ugly,” after seeing her reflection in the phone—and it’s hard to watch. The hairdresser doing her hair is shocked and immediately begins to tell the girl how pretty she is, which makes the girl sob in her arms. “Don’t say that! You are so pretty! When you look at yourself you suppose to say, ‘I am so pretty’— you got the prettiest little dimples, you are so cute,” the hairdresser continues.

Since the video went viral, the little girl has gotten a lot of love, and many are praising the message Shabria is sending to children everywhere. “I made my daughter watch this video because it was so important for me to have her hear you say what you said to this beautiful little girl. So important for all our beautiful black children to hear. I cannot thank you enough for sharing,” one follower wrote. Another commented, “Even if this hadn’t been on film, I promise this child will remember the feelings shown here. Self hate: confusion: understanding: respect from someone she respects: self love…I wish every (black) girl had someone like you to set them straight. Thank you for sharing and for being an inspiration. All my love to Ariyonna, she is black, beautiful and smart. Can’t wait for life to show her how gorgeous she is.”

In a follow-up video posted to the account, the little girl recites, “I’m Black & Beautiful,” and the caption reads, “Today she’s more confident and vibrant like any other day but just more of it! God is def moving in this place ! Pray for your kids even if they’re not yours. Pray for em anyway!”

Many experts believe that children pick up on”societal norms” and gender stereotypes sooner than we may think—including the idea that they need to look a certain way to be considered beautiful. Luckily, there are plenty of ways to promote self-love and positivity starting at a young age, including daily affirmations. Check out our list of 35 affirmations that can help build your child’s self-esteem.

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