Ashley Graham Shares Her Birth Story, Miscarriage and Postpartum Journey
Supermodel and body positivity advocate Ashley Graham tells all in a new personal essay published by Glamour on May 20. In the essay, the 34-year-old shares her traumatic birth experience, her struggles with a miscarriage in early 2021 and talks candidly about accepting her postpartum body.
Graham begins by recounting the birth of twins Roman and Malachi. The babies came swiftly, with Graham in labor for just over three and a half hours. “I had Roman in my apartment bathtub—we didn’t even have enough time to blow up the home birthing tub because everything happened so fast,” recalls Graham. But just as everyone celebrated a quick labor and healthy babies, things took a turn for the worse. “The next thing you know, I looked at my midwife and I said, ‘I don’t feel good. I think I need to lay down,’ and I blacked out,” said Graham.
Post-birth, Graham had lost liters of blood, and her midwives had struggled to stop the bleeding. Once she came to, Graham couldn’t walk and spent four days in bed and two months recovering before she left the house.
The experience, while jarring, was one that Graham felt necessary to share, saying, “I tell you all of this—in pretty unflinching detail—because I believe in the importance of honesty; in revealing things about myself that I hope will help others talk about what they too have been through.”
In the same vein of openness, Graham candidly shared she had suffered a miscarriage in February 2021. “I just remember breaking down more than a few times, just at random, and thinking, ‘How do women across the world do this? Because my story is no bigger than anyone else’s,’” said Graham.
In the remainder of the essay, Graham touches on her path to loving her postpartum body. “Like so many women, what I went through with childbirth has reshaped my relationship with my body—and I say this knowing that I am the person who has been shouting from the rooftops to you all, ‘Love the skin you’re in.’ Yet for me, the births of all my three children threw a lot of that out of the window,” she said.
Graham continued to share how her journey to loving her body post-pregnancy hasn’t been linear but rather ebbs and flows. Her latest campaign with lingerie brand Knix, called Reveal Yourself, centers on the narrative of how important it is to speak openly about your experience so you can move forward. “Because even as a body advocate, I’ve learned it’s okay if the journey to love the skin you’re in is more complex than you could ever have imagined,” said Graham.
As amazing as your postpartum body is, loving it isn’t always easy. While Graham is providing a wonderful and empowering example to new moms everywhere, for more ways on how to love your post-baby body, check out these tips.